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They Really Do Suck the Life Out of You – The “Antagonistic” Attachment of the Narcissist

Tony goes on a quick tangent between parts 1 and 2 of exploring the five types of narcissists to look into the antagonistic attachment style of the narcissistic person. An “antagonist,” from purely a biological, scientific point of view, is a relationship in which one organism benefits at the expense of another. People in narcissistic …

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The Power of Community to Combat Addiction – Chandler Rogers on How the Relay App Repels Porn

Tony gives a “state of the union” address on working with people struggling with turning to pornography as a coping mechanism. He then interviews Chandler Rogers, CEO of Relay, an app that helps people stay connected and accountable on their recovery journey. Relay makes it easy to connect with a shame-free support group, an essential …

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Exploring the 5 Types of Narcissism pt 1 of 2

Tony tackles the 5 types of narcissism in part 1 of 2. He references the article “5 Types of Narcissism and How to Spot Each,” Medically reviewed by Jeffrey Ditzell, DO written By Courtney Telloian — Updated on September 15, 2021http://psychcentral.com/health/types-of-narcissism Find all the latest links to podcasts, courses, Tony’s newsletter, and more at https://linktr.ee/virtualcouch …

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Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife on Modeling Healthy Relationships, Trust, ADHD, Narcissism, and EFT vs. Differentiation

Tony welcomes Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife back to The Virtual Couch for the 5th time! They discuss a variety of topics, including ADHD, the challenge of helping couples envision a version of a relationship they haven’t seen modeled or experienced, narcissism and emotional immaturity, and how to help a spouse “lean in” when they see their …

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Exploring Anxiety, Uncertainty, and “Narcissistic Victim Syndrome” w/Bonus Haiku

Tony talks more about anxiety, uncertainty, and the brain’s adorable desire to make sense of things that often don’t make sense. He reads a haiku and a poem from the women’s private Facebook group, and then he references “Narcissistic Victim Syndrome” from the article “12 Signs You’ve Experienced Narcissistic Abuse (Plus How to Get Help) …

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If You Aren’t Willing to Have It (Anxiety, Fear, Doubt, Depression et al.) You Will – Understanding Acceptance

Dr. Stephen Hayes, the founder of the groundbreaking therapy technique Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), says, “If you’re not willing to have it, then you will.” Have what, you might ask? Anything you are trying to get rid of, from anxiety and depression to fear and loss. So what if the key to overcoming your …

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Navigating the Negative Effects of the Narcissistic (or Emotionally Immature) Parent

People often stay in relationships with narcissistic or emotionally immature partners in hopes that it will be better in the long run for the kids. Unfortunately, staying can often send the exact opposite message. Tony reads another poem from his private women’s Facebook group and a letter from the son of a narcissistic father. He …

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What if I Don’t Like Marshmallows? Revisiting the “Marshmallow Test” and other Pop-psychology “Myths”

Does smiling make you happier? Can you truly predict the long-term success of an adult based on their love, or lack thereof, of marshmallows in their youth? Is depression always linked to a chemical imbalance in the brain? Tony takes a look at 8 popular psychology studies and concepts and shares the latest research on …

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Feeling Stuck? Recognizing the Negative Effects of Regret and Rumination

“Regret is a common feeling that has both negative and positive effects,” Sian Ferguson from the article “How to Move Past Regret.” https://psychcentral.com/blog/a-powerful-exercise-for-moving-past-regret Tony talks about regret and rumination’s roles in keeping people stuck in a trauma bond with a narcissist.  And follow Tony on the Virtual Couch YouTube channel for a sneak preview of …

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Habit, Addict or Unconscious Response? The Latest Research on Why We Do What We Do!

Did you know that more than 40 percent of everything you do is habitual? Are you addicted to your phone or social media? Or are you simply responding to a well-worn neurological cue/reward pattern? Tony discusses the latest in habit research from the article “How to Conquer Your Primitive Brain” by Adam Piore. https://apple.news/A9pURuj3OQL-UNnUw6bnn9A Find …

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