emotionally focused therapy

All You Need is Love…But What Kind of Love? Simplifying Sternberg’s Triangular Theory of Love

In English, we use the word love to describe a variety of emotional states. Are we talking about passionate love, intimate love, committed love, unconditional love or do you tell somebody that you love them simply as a term of endearment? Some people grew up hearing “I love you” on a daily basis in their …

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Hold Me Tight! Conversations For a Lifetime of Love

Tony shares the foundational principles of Dr. Sue Johnson’s Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFT/EFCT) from her book “Hold Me Tight.” Tony referenced a review from Dan’s blog “A Laughing Soul” (https://alaughingsoul.wordpress.com/2012/04/24/hold-me-tight-seven-conversations-for-a-lifetime-of-love/). Tony shares how his “4 Pillars of a Connected Conversation” a key component to his Magnetic Marriage course (http://tonyoverbay.com/magnetic) can significantly help implement the …

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Cleaning Up Physical and Emotional Clutter w/Anna, Professional Organizer

What impedes progress more…physical clutter or emotional clutter? Or is the answer “C, all of the above?” Tony interviews Anna, a professional home organizer and the owner of NEAT Method in Boise, ID. They talk about how organization can be one of the best remedies for your mental health, as well as a smart personal …

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It’s Time to Make Some Adult Decisions! Everything You Need to Know About Differentiation

Do you ever find yourself caught up in emotions so fast that you feel like you can’t think logically? Well, the good news is, you’re human! For most of us, we formed much of our internal compass from our family, including both positive and negative traits. One of the keys to living a happier, more …

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Birth Order and the Impact on Personality (aka Marcia, Marcia, Marcia!)

How important is family birth order in creating your personality? Tony references the article “Birth Order Traits: Your Guide to Sibling Personality Differences” by Jocelyn Voo https://www.parents.com/baby/development/social/birth-order-and-personality/ and “62 Interesting Birth Order Facts” https://www.factretriever.com/birth-order-facts in this episode.–Sign up at http://tonyoverbay.com to learn more about Tony’s upcoming “Magnetic Marriage” program!–Please subscribe to The Virtual Couch YouTube channel at https://www.youtube.com/c/TheVirtualCouchPodcast/ and sign up at http://tonyoverbay.com to …

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Bonus: Understanding the 5 Love Languages

In this special BONUS episode, and in preparation for the coming announcement of Tony’s upcoming Magnetic Marriage communication course, he tackles the frequently referenced but rarely understood 5 Love Languages. Back in 1995, Ph.D. and Marriage Therapist Gary Chapman released a book called “The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate.” …

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Tony’s Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy Primer – A New Framework for Communication

This post contains a document that I originally wrote immediately after a couples therapy session where I felt like there was so much potential for good, productive, meaningful dialogue between a couple but they just didn’t understand the “rules” or see the benefits of the “framework” that EFT, or Emotionally Focused Therapy (for couples in …

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